Sympathy/Empathy is now impossible

Does anyone else have this same problem?

Lately I have been finding it almost impossible to sympathise/empathise with anyone else about anything. And it's gotten to the point where I actually become furious with someone and start to resent them when they complain about something. I never verbalise any of my anger, I don't want to upset anyone, and I can't talk openly with everyone about my condition, so I keep my feelings to myself. But I feel like screaming at them. They have no idea how good they have it. They can lead normal lives, and have normal relationships, and they never have to worry about whether or not their partner will leave them because they can't have sex, or whether or not they're going to be alone forever. Their most intimate part doesn't burn and feel like it's ripping apart. My friends complain to me about boyfriend problems, and I feel like scratching their eyes out. My mother complains to me about work, I feel like slapping her. I can't handle other people anymore, because I am constantly comparing their lives to mine. And I feel incredibly resentful of everyone, because I can't help thinking they have no right to be upset about anything as they are not going through anything as painful as what I am. I know it's unfair of me, but I'm having a particularily rough time and it's just they way my mind is at the moment.

Anyway, my question is, do you guys have this problem? And if so, how do you deal with it?

Hey there,

It's completely natural to be pissed off! It's so bloody unfair and it seems like no one understands. Except us! I feel like it's a trip to crazy town if I did try to explain. In saying that you need support. Do you have friends who do know what's happening? I have a couple who I tell it like it is. I also have a therapist who I unload everything to. That really helps! It's really hard to come to terms with something that makes no sense. Be gentle with yourself.

Take care =)

Hey there,

Yes I can completely identify...but I also like to remind myself that EVERYONE is either going through their own personal hell or has gone through it or will be in the future.

I think theres some tough lessons we learn here on earth and everyone gets a unique experience with regards to that. Dunno if im making any sense....but thats what I believe.

Theres always a silver lining though. But when your down in the pits of misery its hard to see beyond any of it.

Sending love,

Noni

I can totally relate...

I often compare my life to others and just think its not fair and think why are you moaning...have my life!!!

I do try to tell myself that their problems are hurting them so I should try to extend some love rather than a smack lol

But you know what..I dont see anything wrong in feeling the way you are feeling. Its normal and I do think sometimes we just need to feel damn sorry for ourselves and extend that love to ourselves a bit more

Yes, me too, I've resented everyone moaning about their normal lives for years, way before the V because of other issues I have. Then I got V and realised previously I had alot less to moan about and feel resentful about and actually even when I feel like I'm at rock bottom life can and frequently does in my case get worse and throw even more shit my way so I try to feel positive about the things I can do and not worry about everyone else and their trivial or even serious moans. Does that make any sense to anyone except me? Although I was watching an advert earlier where a woman was moaning her skin was dry and found myself saying "I wish that was my biggest problem" at the TV! It's hard to deal with others when you feel so crap like we do and it's even harder I find when their lives are going brilliantly as seems to be the case with everyone around me right now! Lucky bastards!

Yes I also get this feeling.

Wanting to slap friends that complain about skin problems or work problems. I think, I used to be like that, before I had anything serious to moan about. Now I don't moan about anything at all.

I also resent people wearing jeans I can't stand to look at them and wonder why they arn't walking around with their legs wide open, why it doesn't hurt?! I feel pretty bitter, on the bad days towards thoes who have progressed through physio to the point where they no longer have daily pain, I have been doing this for 7months and I am still $5000 poorer and not completely pain free....yet

I hope soon we will join thoes who only have boys and work problems to worry about.

You have to think though, at least we don't have cancer or no legs for example.....

Keep positive ladies

lolainslacks: I couldn't have put it better myself. You just expressed EXACTLY what I've been feeling and struggling with lately, and it makes me feel better to know that there are others out there who understand (even though I don't personally know any). This condition is awful beyond words, and it's impossible for someone who doesn't suffer from it to truly grasp just how much it affects our lives and our futures. The best thing we can do is to just keep fighting and stay strong.

can completely relate!!

this condition has made me more determined and pig headed! yet at the same time weak, resentful, over emotional, angry, frustrated, and darn right f*cked off!!!

we are all in the same boat and will get progress!!!

Yes I can share your sentiment Naomi. At times I am very resentful...and the why me syndrome kicks in.

There are just some things in life that defy logic and fairness. No woman deserves this crap condition.